5. Relationships that are built around a shared future
For a long-lasting healthy relationship, the more the similarity, the better. Partners should especially be secure that their values and goals match before they embark on a relationship.
Research done interviewing couples that had been married for 43 years on average revealed that sharing core values, interests and having a similar outlook on life will stack the odds in your favor. A 2009 research study also revealed that that happier couples have the most similar personalities.
All the couples indicated one thing: opposites attract in the movies, but they do not make great marriage partners.
Evidence suggests that people like dissimilar partners more and find them more stimulating but only when the relationships are short term.
For long-term relationships, greater similarity translates into more staying power of the relationship.
What if you aren’t sure about your relationship goals?
Common goals work together make your lives together work in harmony.
What are your goals as a couple? Do you want to start a family together? Are you planning to own a house? How many children do you want? These kinds of common goals will help to strengthen your relationship.
If you ever find that in your mind, intentionally or subconsciously, you do not want your partner to participate in your plans, it is a sign that it is time for you to move on.